Dealing with a breakup whether it was initiated by “you”or the other person, the pain of breakup is crazily overwhelming. It will cause great pain in both instances.
A break up can leave you weak, angry, depressed, guilty (if initiated by you), downhearted, it can also leave you with a low self esteem, it will make you very sad and after a while you’ll start accepting what happened.
For you to start to heal gradually, here’s what to do;
Stop isolating yourself –
(“When we broke up, I just felt like lying in bed all my life and just being by myself, I didn’t feel like talking to anyone about it, but that didn’t help me, I only got more and more depressed” -. David).
Talk to a trustworthy friend.
Do not think you can deal with it by yourself. Ignore the shame and share your deep thoughts with someone who can understand you, and you will see how relieved you’ll feel. (It could be a parent or a matured friend).
Spend time with people that makes you happy –
Go out with people who have your interest at heart, and care about you.
Get busy doing productive things –
Maybe get a job or help other people, just to keep you busy.
Take very goodcare of yourself-
That is for sure as soon as you start to heal.
Try to remove things that reignites hard feelings –
Maybe delete pictures or remove things that will keep reminding you of the person (this you have to do,if you really want to move on).
Live life gradually as it come –
As much as you keep tabs of your improvement, learn not to hasten yourself to recovery because it might take time.
Its okay to cry
Its okay to have relapse (sometimes you just feel like seeing them or hearing their voice) it’s okay, you’re strong, try so hard to ignore it. So it doesn’t hinder your healing progress.
Most importantly learn from what happened-
So you can improve on your next relationship.
Dealing with a break up is not easy, but it’s possible.
Just know you’re not alone in this, and if you have relapses, keep trying ( David quoted earler said: “I had relapse for almost three years, just when I thought I was over it. And this left me even more heartbroken and I felt like a failure”).
You will be fine, okay? Even if it takes longer than expected. Just keep trying.
Hope it helps you:
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WOW… Just like when I had mine too, I almost skipped a whole semester… Thank God for the good friends I had then, they really helped me pull through… She’ll be fine, time will heal everything, I hope she gets better soon, please send My love to her 😘… Thank you so much for sharing.
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Åhh break ups!! For the good, bad and the ugly!! Im glad I havent experienced any break-ups recently😢 Whatever the feeling is… sadness, rage, relieve- renember that its ok to feel whatever it is your feeling❤️
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Thanks for your comment
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These are great tips. A good social support is really important when dealing with any difficulty and keeping busy definitely helps, too.
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That’s true
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These are such good recommendations and tips. Self care and attention is important when someone is feeling “less-than”. It’s easy to forget, but faith can help through too.
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Very true
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This is so beautiful and wise! Thank yo for sharing this. I definitely have had my fair share of break ups! It is so painful. However, it helps to have good coping skills and a support network!
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Yass
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I agree certainly with the removal of stuff that can help you move along. And having friends for you is good too. Although I remember that at times like this I really learned who my friends there. and sometimes it wasn’t about what your friends said but just their being there that made all the difference.
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Wow.. . This is so true
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Ohh man… I remember my first break up. It was hard and the advices you put here are all true and helpful.
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Thank you zipporah
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These are all so true and helpful! Dealing with a breakup is one of the hardest feelings during that moment!
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Yes it is 😨
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This is helpful especially to those who are having a hard time moving on after a breakup.
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Yes it sure is
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This post is not only informative but motivational also. Thanks for sharing your view with us.
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Aww… Thanks for stopping by
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i remember my first break up so long ago. It felt devastating….
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Phew! Just thank God some are a blessing in disguise
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hrear advice for break ups! I always wanted to isolate and shop .. neither helped. It took friends consistently encouraging me to get out to find the healing I needed.
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Being an emotional person, I can totally relate to what you have laid out here. Breakups can be very stressful, actually seeing a close friend go through one right now..
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You can always direct her here too!🙌
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Break ups are always hard. You made some great suggestions to effectively deal with breakups. Will share.
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Thank you so much 😘
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Well, having a break-up is a sad yet learning experience. This is really part of growing-up. thanks for the advice you shared here and that is really helpful for people who had a hard time coping with this emotion.
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Breakups can be horrible. I am now married so I hope I don’t have to go through it again, but in the past meditation and keeping myself busy did wonders for me.
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I wish you all the best in your marriage hun😊
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breakups are a terrible thing. I think there are just few things worst than a broken heart. Your tips to survive that are great. But sometimes it´s not so easy
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It’s not easy but one needs to keep trying
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Great read. I think these tips are great, breakups suck but we can’t let them destroy us!
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Yasssssss🙌
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i know it was really hard to move on. but just have and everything will gonna be okay..
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Yass… It will hun… If you want to talk contact (beingmissmane@gmail.com)
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When it comes to this issue, i feel like it’s easier said than done. It was really hard to deal with, but thanks for the advice!
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Well each and every one of us go through issues like this one way or the other, and though it’s not easy to practice but it’s worth to do… Everyone needs relief during this trying times, they also need to work for their relief
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A “breakup” is never easy. Time heals all wounds. It may seem hard at first but with time, it gets easier to bare. The best recipe is distraction. I say this is the best time to focus on an achievement and acquire the best results. Dive head first and knee deep in and get going!
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Nice comment… Very insightful
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Don’t isolate yourself is a great advice. I tend to do that even when I am depressed.
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Thanks for reading hun… And I hope we all keep taking these measures whenever we feel down… We are here for you.👉
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What an awesome post and this is really true. Having a trustworthy friend was good she gave me a good advice and comfort me
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Breakups is like dealing with a death. You go through those stages. This great advice
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Phew!… It really is, thanks for stopping by 😊
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Where was you when my friend was going through a break up, I could have just showed her this post lol
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Lol… I was here but you just weren’t here yet… 😂… But now you’re here. I hope she’s ok now?
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Yea she moved on to someone else
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That’s good to know, but I hope she really did move on before moving to someone else
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https://loveisconfusing.com/2017/08/13/liebster-blog-award-nomination/ I nominated you for the Liebster award
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Thank you for this, I wasn’t able to do it since because I was too damn busy a lot of things… So sorry it’s coming now
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