Whether it was initiated by “you”or the other person, the pain of breakup is crazily overwhelming. It will cause great pain in both instances.
A break up can leave you weak, angry, depressed, guilty (if initiated by you), downhearted, it can also leave you with a low self esteem, it will make you very sad and after a while you’ll start accepting what happened.
For you to start to heal gradually, here’s what to do;
Stop isolating yourself –
(“When we broke up, I just felt like lying in bed all my life and just being by myself, I didn’t feel like talking to anyone about it, but that didn’t help me, I only got more and more depressed” -. David).
Talk to a trustworthy friend.
Do not think you can deal with it by yourself. Ignore the shame and share your deep thoughts with someone who can understand you, and you will see how relieved you’ll feel. (It could be a parent or a matured friend).
Spend time with people that makes you happy –
Go out with people who have your interest at heart, and care about you.
Get busy doing productive things –
Maybe get a job or help other people, just to keep you busy.
Take very goodcare of yourself-
That is for sure as soon as you start to heal.
Try to remove things that reignites hard feelings –
Maybe delete pictures or remove things that will keep reminding you of the person (this you have to do,if you really want to move on).
Live life gradually as it come –
As much as you keep tabs of your improvement, learn not to hasten yourself to recovery because it might take time.
Its okay to cry
Its okay to have relapse (sometimes you just feel like seeing them or hearing their voice) it’s okay, you’re strong, try so hard to ignore it. So it doesn’t hinder your healing progress.
Most importantly learn from what happened-
So you can improve on your next relationship.
Dealing with a break up is not easy, but it’s possible.
Just know you’re not alone in this, and if you have relapses, keep trying ( David quoted earler said: “I had relapse for almost three years, just when I thought I was over it. And this left me even more heartbroken and I felt like a failure”).
You will be fine, okay? Even if it takes longer than expected. Just keep trying.
Hope it helps you:
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