Alot of people would agree with me that they were sexually abused at a very young age. And this has left a huge scar in their lives, maybe as a result of them not having a ear to listen to them or they’ve been threatened never to open up.
Sexual abuse is everywhere like I said earlier. Am sure it scares shit out of you when you watch news on your television or you see a post that mentions a child who has been sexually abused. Does fear grip you when you think of protecting your child from not being a victim of sexual abuse? Does it bring back memories of what you too experienced as a child? Or does it remind you of someone you know who suffered such? Does having a female child scare you?
A lot of kids grow up being traumatized, and a lot of them act in such weird ways that even a parent feels like they no longer know their child/children. Everyone has their own ways of reacting to something, so you can’t totally say you understand how someone feels even if the Same happened to you. Some kids do not feel the impact until later in life while some never go back to who they were. It is even more painful when the abuse comes from a trusted person. As a parent or parent to be, have you thought of practical ways to safeguard your child in this terrifying world?
Remember it is not only females that needs to be protected. Males needs it too, Alot of them are sexually abused and harrassed too, but they never get to speak about it (except to maybe close person(s)).
Do you think it’s possible to protect your child(Ren). Well, Yes it is very possible to help your child avoid being sexually abused but you need to recognize your responsibility. As parents, you do not only owe your child material obligations, you also need to safeguard them physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually. And these things needs to be filled so as to help them as they grow up. Here are some practical ways that could help your kids avoid sexual abuse:
1. Help them be free around you-
Here in Africa a lot of us kids find it really hard to talk to our parents especially our mums (my mum must not see this or else am so dead😰). Even the ones you can talk to, there’s a limit to what you can say else it would be used against you. So as a parent how do you hope to talk to a child about important topics like sex when you don’t even give them the chance to express themselves to you? Well, this can be fixed. From a little age, start talking to your child about sex, at first it’s awkward but it’s good you do, as time goes by you would feel comfortable talking about it with them and they would be free to talk about it also with you. Let them know that they can tell you anything without you judging them, and without you using it against them. And if your child is a older and you still can’t talk to them about it, you could start now, you have to be very patient and understanding when Dealing with a teenager. That done you need to…
2. Let them know the dangers around-
Do not Hurd all informations about things happening around them, all in the name of protecting them. Most kids are already exposed to these things. So do your part by talking about it with them, help your child know the dangers of premature sex. Do not threaten them with words like; if you have sex something bad will happen to you, if someone touches you, you will get pregnant. Children these days are very curious and so they might want to know what would happen really… So instead of that, tell them the real danger around having premature sex and then…
3. Prepare them for the dangers-
Many at times children who have been abused do not know until they are older. Ignorance makes it easier for a sexual predator to have his way. So as a parent let your kids know what it means when someone tries to touch them in their private area. Let them know that not even a close relative should be allowed to touch their private areas. Let them know it is inappropriate to be touched in such ways and here’s
3. What to do –
Tell them that it is inappropriate “if someone tries to make them touch their private areas or someone tries to touch “their’ private areas, it would be wise run away immediately, or say a serious “No” with a Stern face ( you should show them practical example while speaking to them)and they should leave immediately without going back. Or threaten to report them”. You can say these to your kids if you…
If you talk with your child, letting them know you don’t judge them, they would be more open to you about anything. So communicate with your child… Be patient with them and listen to them as they express themselves, encourage them . This can be achieved if …
5. You are your child’s best friend-
Being your child’s best friend is beneficial for both you and them, so make that your priority. Because it will open room for easy communication. Use tactful questions to draw out their thoughts… And if you’re having issues with your child not opening up to you, be patient like I said earlier. Maybe you need to Change your approach towards them. Let them see that you are not here to judge them. If your child is your best friend, they would prefer your advice to that of their peers. But they can be your friend if you can…
6. Be a good listener-
When you listen to your child talk, you would be able to help them in areas needed. And they would love to always talk to you. Knowing that you have their interest at heart. Encourage them when they talk to you. Tell them how proud you are of them.
7. Be careful who you leave your kids with-
This is really important. Though as parents you can’t always be with your kids 24/7. But please give your child more time as they grow because they need you around more than ever to protect them. No one would look after your child than you. Try as much as possible to…
8. Be available-
With the innovation of technology almost everyone is caught up busy online. Please cut the time you spend online to spend meaningful time with your kids. Your time with them is more appreciated than any material things you give them.
9. Take them serious-
Make sure that you pay attention to what your kids tells you, take them seriously. A sexual predator could be a trusted person also.
Always tell them to report any incident to you. Use questions to draw their thoughts. Let them know the dangers around them, commend them when they do good things.
It’s not easy to provide and protect your kids but it is possible to.
I hope your efforts are worthwhile. Please do your best to protect your kids.
Hope it helps.
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It’s been a while I came around, there are cobwebs everywhere 😂… I’ve been so busy with exams, work and trying to compile this post wasn’t so easy too and so I hope it helps parents and parents to be.
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