Hay lovelies; *shooting you my most beautiful toothy grin smile…
I hope today wasn’t too stressful for ya.
I had a great day…
And I was itchy so much to be here with you all to share with you this little thought on mine…
You’ll agree with me that it feels great to be in love… and when that person loves you back?, the feeling, damn!…it’s priceless. Everything around you stops “existing” so-to-speak ; it’s just you and them that counts.
Even when you see the harbinger not to go into a relationship because you’re probably too clouded by emotions to think; you ignore those signs; even the warnings coming from your loved ones…
Hay honey… it’s fine; it’s normal, but to be candid with you, it’s totally not fine. I’ll tell you why.
- Truth be said ; when you’re considering a long term relationship there are some details or traits in a person you don’t wanna ignore… no dear; don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying ‘be judgemental’. I’m saying use you discretion (like the yorubas would say; lo agbari eh).
- Another thing is that; the heart is treacherous even the Bible clearly states that..Many at times we hear married people say ‘I never saw these signs; infact he was never like this… well… that’s totally not true because in most cases we see these signs but we just decide to ignore them because we’re in love, and we think they’ll change in the long run because they’re in love too…My dear… there are some things we can’t change about some people except they want to.
Sign That You Shouldn’t Ignore
- Their Goals and Yours–
Before you get into a long term relationship you want to first consider your goals and aspirations; does it tally?… Does this person understand what you want in a relationship and is he/she ready to give you? Does he/she have what it takes to be your life partner? And is he/she a kind of person that wants to live his/her her life the way you wanna live yours?… well, these, are thought-provoking questions you need to consider.
That’s why you don’t need to rush into a relationship; before you get into one, both of you must have a based or common goal you share.
2. Their Personality
You might wonder, what about their personality.
Well, knowing each other very well is very necessary. Let me go straight to what i mean. You might be in a relationship with a really nice guy; he cares for you, he satisfies you, he loves you but let’s assume he abuses you; uses all sorts of unpleasant words on you or hits you… damn babe you need to run for your life and don’t bother turning to see what you left behind…
Just note that whatever attitude he doesn’t change while you guys are dating, he’ll not see reasons to change when you’re married… except he want to.
3. Unnecessarily Jealous–
Some people say jealousy is a sign of love; and yea yea I agree with them. Come to think of it, if you don’t love someone things they do wouldn’t bother you right?… Yes.
But some people can be unnecessarily jealous; for instance I used to have someone who breaks up his relationship when he sees a guy admiring his girl… or fights his babe when he goes through her phone and sees a guy’s name stored on it while scrolling through her contacts, or when he sees a guy’s compliment on her pic maybe on a social networking site.
Come on, that’s unreasonable, we should respect each others privacy and even if you wanna go through your lovers phone it should be with their consent, and do not be quick to pick offense… so dear… before he/she says I.O word, say it first… The person is childish.
4. Cocky Person-:
When you try everything possible to please someone and he/she doesn’t appreciate your efforts won’t stop bragging about the other people better than you they could have been with, please what are you still looking for in such a relationship…
Those kinda of people have issues with their self-worth and they might be using you to get over the fact that they can’t get what they want or someone they want… and with time this might also rob off on you … and you might lose your self worth too.
5. Someone who’s ashamed of you–
Someone who claims to love you but can’t show you off isn’t worth you.
6. Someone who doesn’t Trust you–
What is Love without trust?… Trust is the sole foundation of any relationship… If he/she claims to love you, but doesn’t trust you ; please what’s the essence of it?
8. Someone Who can’t Admit Being Wrong–
Egotism won’t help a relationship, instead it breaks’em… Someone who values you, would do everything to keep you.
9. Someone Who Doesn’t Stand Up For You–
If he/she values you; he’ll fight to keep you… He/She would stand against the world just to stand up for you…
Thanks for stopping by;
Hope it helped?…
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