Relationships- How do I know if this person is right for me 👀?

Hi everyone; welcome to Being Miss Mane.

I’m soo glad you stopped by, and I hope you’ll gain from this little knowledge I am about to share with you from my experience during the past years of my existence😂.
Well, admittedly or not, Alot of people wonder if the person they are dating is really the “One”.

 Fact is we are all attracted to one person or another; but as much as we trust this person, once in a while doubt creeps in our heart and a lot of question pops in our head probably because of what we see happening in relationships today that seemed wonderful to everyone but suddenly hit to a very heavy melt-down or maybe because our past experiences with someone whom we once had feelings for wasn’t sweet either.
  Either ways, we are obviously trying to be careful not to make another mistake or if we haven’t made one before, we do not want to make any at all. 

 Broken relationships are many at times a waste of our time, energy, resources and mostly ‘our feelings’… this is simply because we all want our love expressed to be reciprocated by whoever it is we expressed it to. It really hurts when you love someone and they don’t feel the same way about you or they don’t love you in the same scale as you do; that could lead to serious depression. 

However, knowing if someone is right for you is really important.

    • Firstis this person attracted to you?…

    That question is worth asking. Please, for a moment ‘forget the butterflies in your stomach(like my eldest uncle’s wife once said to me😂😁)’. 

    There’s no need to rush into a relationship; take your time My Dear and find out this relevant answers before getting into a relationship.
    One way you know someone is genuinely  attracted to you is their attitude towards you!.

     Though people pretend a lot; that is why we need to take our time and use our discretion to figure out if it’s for real.
    1). Does he/she seek your advantage

    For instance; someone who is attracted to you will very much love to do ‘Anything’ to please you. The person wouldn’t mind going an extra-mile just to prove to you that they’ve got your back no matter what happens. Helping you achieve your aims, objectives, dreams and realities would be their ‘future ambition’ so to speak; in the sense that, he/she would work with you and encourage you to pursue your desires. He/she would help you see that he/she has got your back and what seems impossible is totally possible.

     He/she will always want to be involved in your life. Doesn’t mean being possessive or being overly protective.

    •  You need your privacy sometimes.

    2). Someone attracted to you will do everything in their power to make you happy– 

    Your happiness is first on their to-do list. What makes you happy brings them happiness.

    Someone who is attracted to you would not just be attracted to your physical appearance. They will see the beauty in everything you do, including your flaws (but you also do not want to take advantage of their feelings for you, always fit into each others shoes).

     They will be proud of any success you achieve and will be there for you even at your ‘worse moment’. Speaking from experience.

        Someone who loves you isn’t worried about whether you are beautiful, sparingly beautiful or averagely beautiful; no darling they are not bothered about your body size, whether you’re stoutly, a plus size or skinny. That is probably not why they are In love with you. They just love you for you; and the beauty they see in you, you might never get to see it in yourself.

        Second their attitude towards you

        1). How does he/she treat you

        -do they make you their priority as much as you do them?

        We all know that love comes naturally and can endure all things; but it will also wither like a plant if  inot nurtured, watered, cared for and even reciprocated.

           Someone who genuinely loves you, considers your feelings and opinions first before taking steps or decisions even pertaining to their life. They want to know if their decision is pleasing to you and will make you happy.

        • Thirdtheir time and attention 

        Someone who loves is never too busy for you, yes, they might have a tight schedule but won’t have they breaks?

        Well, even with a busy schedule if they love you they’ll make out time for you.

        • FourthUnderstanding 

        Asides love, being understanding is a relevant part of a relationship. Someone who loves you will try to be understanding although you will not agree in everything.

        • FifthTrust 

        Trust is the sole foundation of all relationships. What is Love without trust?well, nothing. Something who loves you would trust completely even when people around criticise you.

        • Lastly-: Forgiveness 

        You both would err each other but willingless to forgive freely shows love. Someone who doesn’t love you would find it hard to forgive you easily…

        Thanks a lot for stopping by; 

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        I hope I was able to help?

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